A prim is
a leader, above she and he will have an influence on so many that will always
be part of their lives. To be a serving leader and mentor is the greatest gift
to give.
We live in the most challenging times ever, we are now in the heart of the fourth revolution where machines and robots are taking over.
Winners will be those that can act humanly, listen with an open mind and heart, talk less and listen more and shoulder to cry on.
1 Conflict
We are
different, our personalities, culture, gender and generation. It leads to
conflict over and over. Blaming others, meeting halfway, smouldering revenge.
A great
rule is when attacked and the other person is simply terrible, just ignore
as “Om te ignoreer is die beste geweer!”
Conflict can be the greatest way when one + one = ten.
Rather listen, write down, “What happened”, “How do you feel about it?”, “What can we jointly do about it and how?”
- We all have the same basic
needs:
- Do not want to be hurt.
- Be part of a group.
- Be worth something.
- Please care for me?
- Believe in a higher power.
- Brag a bit.
- Bored and want fun.
- Afraid and seeks resolve.
- Want fun and laughter.
Give this
to others and they will adore us!
Delay
judgement of others and especially judging ourselves.
2 Culture
Culture
differences are complex and lead to conflict. Culture begins and ends in
language. Learn bits of another language use it and everything will be
different.
English
is used up to eighty percent in the world that flies in the air. Out here Xhosa
and Afrikaans and the languages of the heart. Use it accordingly!
It is not
the one or the other, it is by using all three in the right situation.
(With
many thanks to Yongama Skweyiya, another Huis Marais inhabitant!)
Dankie – “enkosi”, Baie dankie – “enkosi kakhulu”
Ek waardeer dit – “ndiyabulela”
Xhosa het nie ‘n woord vir "asseblief" nie, ons gebruik meestal ‘n tipe van gesegte om dit aan te dui; dus is asseblief – “ndiyacela” wat ook as “ek vra mooi” kan vertaal word.
Nog asseblief – “ndiphinde”
Ekskuus– “uxolo”
Skuif op – “bekela”
Hello – “Molo” vir enkel en “Molweni” vir meervoud
How are you? – “kunjani” vir enkel en “Ninjani” vir meervoud
Mooi loop – “hamba kahle”, Mooi bly - "“sala-kahle”
The most critical words are, “Obrigado”, “Mercie”, “Velen dank”, “Enkosi” and “Baie dankie!” Use it!
3 Ethics
We live
is a world of cheating and undermining. Let us all be different from this. Some
guidelines. (Recognition to Hanno Olinger.)
- Respect, do to others what
you expect from them.
- Is it legal what we are
doing?
- Is it a shoosher?
Nobody should know about it!
- Does it infringe my duties
and do I doing this avoid responsibilities?
- Most important of it all,
what would my mom say if she hears about this?
4 When we meet up
More in the downloadable book, Replay.
To put
the facts on the table, argue about it and then vote is simply stupid.
Put all
facts on the table without any judgement. Shuffle around and sees what comes
out, then jointly judge it and refine and create a solution. NEVER EVER VOTE!
In our meetings we will have baddies. Put this on the wall and let all know that this is bad behaviour:
The griper, al knowing expert, eager beaver, hijacker, joker, referee, rival, show off, shy violet, silent critic, Speedy Gonzales, troubler, whisperer, woolly thinker and the yawner.
Use CPS, creative problem solving:
- Who are we? Meet and laugh
- What is going on?
- What does it all mean?
- Get missing information.
- Create many solutions.
- Focus it on action steps
- Do it!
5 Communication
Words mean little, less than twenty percent.
Look them in the eyes, smile. Open hands, do not touch our bodies.
Talk slowly, leave spaces between words.
Use “because”, “imagine”. Avoid “still”, “not” and adjectives and adverbs.
Use
stories, make fun of yourself, be humble.
Use the common ground and fight the common enemy. Use simple words avoiding buzzwords.
Join Toastmasters!
6
Leadership
The greatest leader of all time, Napoleon said:
- Show the way and stay out of
the way!
- Let us unite on our cause.
- Keep their bellies full.
Meaning they must be physically comfortable.
- See the positive first.
- Hit the grumblers and
cheaters
- Play on emotion
- One – on – one meeting:
"How can I help you?"
- Have a group myth.
7 In conclusion
Follow the rules of chess, you must move as postponement is bad.
Think before you move, think before you move and think before you move!
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